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Having a party seems like one of the easiest things you could do.
But to think that would be wrong.
Too often I am hearing that an event didn’t go to plan. The guests didn’t do this or they didn’t do that. There is one big difference between just hosting a party and a hosting successful party. This is based on one tiny factor that plays an enormous role that hosts forget all too often. The most important tool hosts need to know is that…
YOU teach your guests how to behave!
A lot of the time, it isn’t the guests acting out or not mingling or not dancing for a reason but rather may be a result of poor layout or structure. If you think about your plans from a guests point of view, perhaps your choices may change!
These two questions and your answers to them will be the secret you have been looking for… what are you expecting from your party & what is the message you are sending your guests — and are your answers the same?
What behaviours are you expecting from guests? What would you like to see them doing during the night? Would you be happy with them all sitting at their tables talking to the person next to them and walking around outside or are you wanting them to be meeting new people, chatting and dancing?
Whatever your answers are to the above questions should be equal to the message you send your guests as soon as they arrive to your party. Because how you set out your party, how you place your tables, what food or drinks you provide, how much space you allow and what entertainment you provide ALL contributes to how they will or will not behave.
99% of the time, I have clients looking to create an event where their guests come together in a celebration, being joyful about the occasion, conversing, eating and drinking together. That’s really what we have celebrations for! So if you consider what your ambitions are for the event, and then allow for conducive opportunities in your layout and structure for this to happen, then it most probably will. But if you have these desires for your guests and don’t understand your role in creating an atmosphere for these experiences to happen, then they probably won’t.
Save yourself the heartache of being discouraged by your guests behaviour by understanding that essentially it is your choices for the event that facilitate the end result and the experiences of all.
Pete wanted to propose to his girlfriend Shannon, so he went to a Mexican restaurant and spelled out his his proposal in a photo booth. And it was harder than it looks: “He told me he only had the exact change for five strips,” says Shannon, “because he didn’t realize they were $3 each, so he was really nervous that he was going to mess up the order of the letters. Thus him making a ‘Oh my god, I hope I got this right’ face in the last photo.” Pete then stuck the strips on their fridge, and Shannon discovered it while they were cooking pasta. How sweet is that?
(via joanna goddard)
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